The skills of cooperation, compromise and caring have always been difficult for humans to learn. Changes breed mistrust and anxiety, and the world has been changing rapidly.
A possible path forward is to work in concentric circles. Take care of yourself and you family. The reach-out to your community. Build your friendships and trust. Then spread to the larger community, the city, the state.
We are going against a fanatical, but well-funded minority that has worked for decades to derail all attempts at social and economic equality. You have described the problem well, but there are really more of us than them. We have to find ways to unite and push forward. Start by openly combatting lies, especially dangerous ones. — even with family over the holidays. Be nice, but be firm. The truth matters.